The Pain of Partnership Gone Wrong

You and your partner once shared a loving connection, but now every conversation feels like navigating a minefield. Despite your best efforts, the same arguments play out on repeat, leaving you both feeling misunderstood and alone. The warmth and safety you once felt has been replaced by tension and distance. Perhaps one of you withdraws while the other pursues, creating an exhausting dance of connection and rejection. Or maybe past experiences or neurodevelopmental differences add layers of complexity that standard relationship advice can't address.

If you're finding that past experiences are significantly impacting your ability to connect, you may want to explore my work with [Complex Trauma Recovery page].

You've tried everything – communication techniques, date nights, maybe even previous couples counseling – but nothing seems to stick. The thought that this might be unfixable terrifies you, yet the prospect of staying stuck in this painful cycle feels equally impossible.

A Different Approach to Relationship Renewal

As a licensed psychologist with over 30 years of professional experience, I bring a sophisticated understanding of how relationships become trapped in negative cycles – and more importantly, how to break free from them. My expertise in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment-based approaches, combined with deep understanding of trauma and neurodiversity, allows me to help couples whose challenges go beyond standard relationship conflicts.

I specialize in helping partners navigate:

• The impact of childhood experiences on current relationship patterns

• Differences in emotional expression and processing

• The delicate balance between desire for closeness and fear of vulnerability

• Executive function differences that impact daily life together ([Learn more about Executive Function Support page])

• The unique pressures that professional life places on intimate relationships

Your Path to Deeper Connection

My approach combines the proven effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Therapy with trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming practices. Together, we'll:

• Create immediate relief by developing practical tools for de-escalating conflicts

• Identify and understand the patterns keeping you stuck

• Access and share the deeper feelings that fuel your conflicts

• Develop genuine empathy for each other's emotional experiences

• Build new patterns of secure connection based on mutual understanding

• Address any underlying factors affecting your relationship's dynamics

Real Results for Modern Couples

Partners who engage in this work discover:

• A sense of being truly understood by each other

• Freedom from repetitive conflicts that once seemed endless

• Deeper emotional intimacy and trust

• The ability to discuss difficult topics without triggering old patterns

• A secure foundation that helps them navigate future challenges together

• Balance between professional demands and relationship needs